Divorce is Not Your Ending

It's Your Becoming!

What Will You Do With This Divorce?

Learn How to Live Again

 

If you’ve been walking around looking “fine” while feeling lost, afraid, stuck, frustrated, hurt, angry or completely overwhelmed inside after separation or divorce, the More of Me coaching program is for you.

 

Because being on your own doesn’t mean you’re broken. Being on your own means you’re at the beginning. 

 

The beginning of healing. 

The beginning of peace. 

The beginning of remembering you. 

 

More of Me is a deep healing and empowerment journey for women rebuilding life after separation or divorce, at your own pace and on your own time, with support that meets you right where you are.

 

You’ll learn how to:

- quiet the mental chaos and rebuild self-trust

- create emotional safety, stability, and inner strength

- reclaim your joy, voice, and sense of identity

- design a life that reflects who you are now

- release old patterns, fear, guilt, and people-pleasing

- move from just surviving to actually living again

 

Who the More of Me Coaching Program is for...

 

Women who are:

- separated, divorcing, or recently divorced

- in long-term unhealthy or draining relationships

- who feel stuck, lost, afraid, or disconnected from themselves

- rebuilding their homes, finances, identity, and peace

- ready to feel alive again and not just get through the day

 

Through short, powerful sessions and guided reflection, you’ll learn how to hear your own voice again, set boundaries without guilt, release the need to “perform” for others, and design a life that feels safe, free, and aligned with who you truly are.

 

More of Me doesn’t tell you whether to stay, leave, or date again. It helps you stop abandoning yourself and gives you space to find yourself again, so every decision you make comes from a place of clarity, worthiness, and power. Through honest teaching, reflective exercises, and a supportive community, you’ll do the deep inner work to release what no longer serves you and step into a life that feels more aligned, more truthful, and more you.

 

More of Me was created and facilitated by Tirza Barnes, a coach, facilitator, and woman who has rebuilt her own life after an unhealthy marriage. Inside, she shares the tools, strategies, and truths that have helped countless women move from pain and confusion to clarity, confidence, and deep self-respect. 

"The program has impacted my awareness, understanding, and perspective of self to another level. On this journey, I’ve learned that even though I claimed to be a self-aware woman, I lacked forgiveness and patience, allowing the lower self to take over my thoughts when situations weren’t going how I would have hoped.

 

With the perspective and tools gained, I no longer allow myself to remain in self-doubt or a negative mind frame. I now focus on cultivating positive energy in my life, preparing my mind, body, and spirit to the good around and within me. This program has allowed me to be MORE of ME."

 

~ Kimberly Barnes

"Through this program's insightful guidance and the weekly community coaching sessions, I identified several emotional blocks holding me back from being the best person I could be.

 

I recognized that doing the work to identify the origins of my self-sabotaging thoughts and then letting them go was necessary to create a better life, be happy, and pursue activities that align with being more of me."

 

~ Michelle Rivera

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When Your Old Life Ends, Who Do You Become Now?

 

When your old life ends, a new one is quietly beginning, whether you asked for it or not. If you’re navigating separation or divorce, stuck in a draining relationship, or simply exhausted from carrying everyone else while abandoning yourself, this is your invitation to pause and ask:

 

- Who am I becoming now?

- What kind of love, home, and life, do I want to create if I stop letting the past define me?

- Who do I want to be six months from now: more confident, more peaceful, more honest with yourself?

 

In This Course, You’ll Learn:

 - How to find your worth outside of any relationship and ground your happiness in who you are. - Build the clarity and courage to make healthy changes, whether that means leaving, rebuilding, or finally choosing yourself in a new way. - Unshackle yourself from the belief that success or stability requires a partner and instead build an inner foundation that’s yours, no matter your relationship status.

 

And if you’ve always been last on your own list, you’ll practice prioritizing your well-being and desires even while juggling kids, work, bills, and healing.

 

The past is part of your story, but it doesn’t have to be the author of your future.

 Navigating New Realities After Divorce

You’re not alone. My own journey through this season of transition has been a powerful catalyst for growth, healing, and deep self-understanding.

 

I’ve been where you are, facing hard decisions, emotional waves, identity shifts, and moments of uncertainty, yet continuing to rise with resilience and renewal. Every challenge, every doubt, and every breakthrough in self-discovery has shaped the path I now offer to you.

 

“More of Me” is not just a program. It is a living reflection of my lessons, my healing, and the shared experiences of hundreds of women I’ve had the honor to coach. Women who, like you, chose themselves. Women who desire MORE from life, more from love, and more from who they are becoming.

 

 A New Chapter Begins With You

 

Many women find “More of Me” right in the middle of a major relationship shift, separation, divorce, or the quiet decision to finally leave a situation that’s been hurting them for years.

 

If that’s you, this course will help you:

 

- Reclaim your identity after being someone’s partner, fixer, peacekeeper, or “strong one” for so long.

- Untangle guilt, shame, and “What if I had just…” so you can move forward with more compassion and less self-blame.

- Release unhealthy attachments to old relationship patterns, people-pleasing, and chasing external validation.

- Rebuild self-trust so you feel confident making decisions about love, money, parenting, and your future.

- Imagine a life beyond the breakup — one where you are not defined by what ended, but by what you’re creating now.

 

You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to be willing to choose more of you than you’ve been allowing.

 

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This program is your invitation to:

  • Release the shame, grief, and guilt tied to divorce 

  • Stabilize your emotional world after separation or divorce

  • Rebuild your identity beyond the marriage 

  • Heal from internalized blame and self-doubt

  • Shift from fear and scarcity after divorce 

  • Reclaim your voice, needs, and boundaries 

  • Build a life that feels like yours again

Are you ready to commit to the work necessary to achieve true self-empowerment and harness your full potential? 

Just like I have journeyed to a place of inner strength and freedom you too can position yourself to create the life you love. 

"I've truly been transformed by the "More of Me" program. I've discovered the power of simply being present and understanding. I've learned to cope with my emotions more effectively and navigate challenges.This course is a guiding light. It showed me that personal growth is about self-awareness, understanding, and embracing the discomfort of growth." ~ Valerie Hopkins

Inside

"More of Me"

 

More of Me is a 5-week rebuilding experience for separated and divorced women.

 

In just five weeks, you’ll rebuild your life with live coaching, a safe confidential community, and the tools to stop spiraling, and start living again.

When You Join More of Me, You Get:

 

  • Five Insightful Modules – A step-by-step journey through the core areas of healing, self-discovery, and empowerment.

  • 25 Pre-Recorded Lessons – Audio and video teachings you can pause, replay, and return to whenever you need them.

  • Self-Paced Flexibility – Learn on your schedule, in your space, at the pace that matches your reality.

  • Bi-Weekly Community Coaching Calls – Live group check-ins where I coach, answer your questions, and support you in real time.

  • 1 Private 1:1 Session with Me – A dedicated session to focus on your specific story, pain points, and goals so you leave with clarity and a plan.

  • Supportive Sisterhood – A community of women on similar journeys, separated, divorcing, divorced, or deeply ready for “more of me”—so you never feel like you’re doing this alone.

  • 50+ Practical Techniques – Grounded, easy-to-use tools you can apply right away to calm your mind, shift your patterns, and change your daily life.

  • Three Bonus Lessons – Extra support to deepen your breakthroughs and accelerate your growth.

  • 60-Page Workbook – Guided reflections and exercises that help you turn insight into action and make the work personal.

  • Lifetime Access – Return to the modules, practices, and recordings as often as you need, especially as new layers of your healing and growth unfold.

     More of Me is your invitation to stop living as the old version of you and step fully into who you’re becoming.

 

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"The program's comprehensiveness is remarkable. It delves into every facet— from the struggles we experience to empowerment, culminating with lessons on manifestation.

The program served as a powerful reminder that faith is a guiding force in my life journey.

Tirza radiates as a bright light and is a phenomenal coach and teacher! The depth of the content, coupled with Tirza's presence, has made this learning enlightening."

~ Wunmi Onile-Ere

Five Modules 

MODULE 1

Laying the Foundations of Your Transformation

The opening module of “More of Me” is all about grounding yourself after everything you’ve been through. Whether you’re navigating a separation, divorce, or a major life transition, this is where you pause, breathe, and get honest about what you truly want next. Through three powerful lessons, you’ll begin building a steady foundation for your healing and growth:

  • Discovering Your Inner Yearning: Get clear on what your soul is asking for in this season of your life. Instead of living on autopilot or in survival mode, you’ll explore the deeper longing underneath your frustration, sadness, or restlessness.
  • Recognizing Your Readiness for Transformation: Learn to see the signs that you are ready for change, even if you still feel scared or unsure. You’ll begin shifting from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this trying to grow in me?”
  • Aligning with Divine Timing: Explore how life’s timing, including breakups, endings, and unexpected detours, can be part of a larger order. You’ll practice trusting that you are not behind, but being invited into a new chapter, right on time.

MODULE 2

Turn Setbacks Into Comebacks

Life doesn’t always go the way we planned. Relationships end, plans fall apart, and the version of life you imagined may no longer exist. In this module, you’ll learn how to honor your pain and transform it into power. Whether your setback is a divorce, breakup, health scare, career shift, or emotional rock bottom, this is where your comeback story starts.

  • Embracing Your Struggles: Instead of pretending you’re “fine,” you’ll gently name what’s really been hard, heartbreak, disappointment, betrayal, fear, and give yourself permission to feel it without shame.
  • Cultivating Resilience: Discover your innate ability to rise after being knocked down. You’ll learn how to pull wisdom from your experiences so you move forward with more clarity, not more walls.
  • Strategies for Transformation : Practice five practical strategies that help you shift from being stuck in the story of what happened to creating a new story about who you’re becoming.

MODULE 3

Unlock the Power of Letting Go

Letting go is one of the hardest and most powerful parts of healing, especially after a relationship ends. This module supports you in releasing patterns, stories, and emotional attachments that no longer serve your highest self so you can make room for peace, joy, and possibility.

  • Accepting Surrender as Empowerment: Reframe surrender from “giving up” to “choosing yourself.” You’ll see how loosening your grip on what’s no longer working actually brings you back to your power.
  • Self-Limiting Beliefs: Identify the beliefs that keep you stuck: “I’m not enough,” “I’m too much,” “I’ll always struggle,” “I failed at love.” You’ll begin to challenge and replace them with truths that honor your worth.
  • Feelings of Inadequacy: Gently confront the inner critic that tells you the breakup or divorce was all your fault. You’ll practice self-compassion and learn to see your humanity, not just your mistakes.
  • Toxic Thought Patterns: Notice and shift the loops of overthinking, comparison (especially to an ex or their new life), and worst-case-scenario thinking so your mind becomes a safer place to live.

MODULE 4

Your Path to True Self-Discovery

Who are you when you’re not someone’s partner, fixer, or “strong one”? This module is a gentle but powerful journey back to your authentic self, the you beneath the roles, the expectations, and the performance. Here, you’ll reconnect with the parts of you that may have been lost in relationships, caregiving, or survival mode.

  • Distinguishing Your True Self from the Ego: Learn to recognize the difference between your true voice and the ego’s voice, the one driven by fear, pride, defensiveness, and people-pleasing. This clarity helps you make decisions that honor who you really are.
  • Cultivating Deep Self-Love: Move beyond clichĂ©s and into real, daily practices of self-respect and self-tending. You’ll explore how to talk to yourself, care for yourself, and show up for yourself the way you always wanted others to show up for you.
  • Releasing Limiting Attachments: Identify relationships, habits, and ways of being that keep you small, like over-functioning, over-giving, and chasing approval. You’ll practice loosening your attachment to what drains you so you have more energy for what lights you up.

MODULE 5

Master the Art of Manifestation

This final module is about calling in a life that fits the real you. Beyond just wishing or goal-setting, you’ll learn how to align your thoughts, beliefs, and energy with the future you want to create, whether that includes new love, financial stability, peaceful co-parenting, a thriving career, or simply more joy in your everyday life.

  • The Power of Focused Thought and Intention: Get clear on what you desire in this new chapter, across health, money, relationships, home, and purpose, and learn how to direct your focus in a way that supports those desires.
  • Real-Life Manifestation Success Stories: Be encouraged by real examples, including my own, of what becomes possible when you combine faith, aligned action, and a “More of Me” mindset. These stories remind you that your current season is not your final destination.
  • Boosting Confidence and Vibrational State: Explore how your confidence and emotional energy influence what you attract and allow into your life. You’ll learn simple practices to raise your vibration so you become a magnet for experiences that honor your worth.
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"One of the highlights for me was the sense of community fostered by the group check-ins, where Tirza's coaching was instrumental in enhancing our understanding of the program. It felt like a much-needed nourishment for my growth, reminding me of the significance of embracing progress over perfection. This program pushed me to reevaluate my life choices and offered the guidance I needed to move forward." ~Shantel Gamble

"The program's emphasis on self-exploration and introspection allowed me to delve deep into my thoughts and beliefs. It provided a unique opportunity to connect with my spiritual side, something I had often overlooked in my personal growth journey.

 

However, what truly sets this course apart is its practical approach. It encourages self-reflection and motivates you to take tangible actions and make real changes in your external life. The thoughtful questions posed throughout the course challenged me to step out of my comfort zone and pursue meaningful growth." ~Kanitra Perrault

Women Thrive in Community

“More of Me” is not just a program, its a journey of self discovery, empowerment, and transformation with a blend of expert guidance, interactive exercises, and community support.

Through bi-weekly group coaching sessions, you can partner with other women ready to take charge of their personal development.

In a safe and loving virtual space, you’ll address the unique experience of women learning individual insight and practical strategies to help you redefine your life’s trajectory.

 

 Meet Tirza 

Your Coach & Facilitator

Hello Divine One!

I'm Tirza, and my life today is a testament to the power of transformation. I live with joy, clarity, and love, deeply connected to myself and the universe. My commitment to growth, healing, and letting go has allowed me to live in my full power. However, this level of self-actualization was not achieved overnight. Raised in a single-parent household in Brownsville, Brooklyn, a place notorious for its hardships, I learned the values of resilience and adaptability early on.

 

Raising two children within the confines of a challenging marriage marked a critical phase of my life. The communication breakdowns, betrayals, and lengthy divorce process were painful yet transformative, pushing me toward self-help and spirituality. This personal evolution inspired me to spend over twenty years empowering women to overcome societal limitations and discover their inner strength. My entrepreneurial journey, through founding "Tirza Motivates LLC", was significant, allowing me to channel my experiences into a mission that uplifts and educates others through workshops, leadership training, and various development programs.

 

Just when I thought I had faced my share of life's challenges and could focus on my business, dating, and simply living, life threw another curveball — both my mother and I were diagnosed with breast cancer within a year of each other. This period, while daunting, offered yet another chance to turn this setback into a badass comeback.

 

These experiences have tested my strength and led me to embrace a holistic lifestyle, advocating for a balance of mental, spiritual, and physical well-being.

 

With "More of Me", I invite you to join me on a journey of transformation that promises self-love, authenticity, and ultimate fulfillment. This program offers a fresh start for those ready to leave their past behind and embrace their NOW and the promises of what is ahead, stepping into a life filled with joy and power.

 

Divine One, let's embark on this journey together, paving the way to a life that is not only vibrant but deeply satisfying.

Tirza

"I was so impressed with Tirza's stories about her setbacks and how she turned them into comebacks. So often, we only share our successes and accomplishments, but we must also share our challenges to be truly authentic."

 

Tirza does it beautifully and courageously. The course also helped me become more self-aware and sensitive to the struggles others may experience in becoming MORE, and I have intentionally encouraged others along my growth journey."

 

Mary Parker

“I am honored to have been a part of this experience! The More Of Me program gave me sincere guidance, wisdom, and liberation.

 

It exceeded my expectations as it did immense justice for where I am in my life. This course is truly a gift to all Women, Men, Young people, and anyone seeking answers for their path.

 

I admire and respect the transparency, positive attitude, approach, delivery, and image Tirza exudes. She is brave, confident, courageous, and authentic in sharing and teaching.

 

It has been a pleasure and an honor. I hope to continue to be a part of this community with the aspiration to learn, evolve, and become the Woman I truly aspire to be."

 

Shree Marrajh

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"This course allowed me to dig deep into my past, to confront those hidden triggers that have been holding me back. It provided a safe and supportive space for me to explore these unresolved issues and find ways to address them.

Through this process, I gained valuable insights into the negative thought patterns that have been sabotaging my personal growth. I've come to understand how these thoughts have been a roadblock to my progress, keeping me from embracing my authentic self and realizing my full potential." ~ Kyiesha Coachman

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"This course has exceeded my expectations! It heightened my thinking and consciousness as I gained clarity on some of the most challenging questions we have as human beings and as women. Tirza isn’t afraid to be transparent about her life experiences, letting her audience understand that while you face challenges and difficulties along your journey, you can still gravitate towards happiness by releasing what no longer serves your highest good or your soul’s purpose. More of Me is filled with wisdom, clarity, and transparency, offering liberation for all women ready to elevate themselves to the next level." ~Shree Marrajh

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TERMS OF USE

In order to establish and maintain the safety and sanctity of sessions, participants are asked to maintain confidentiality guidelines. Please be aware that the information, recommendations and opinions expressed throughout the program are for general information only and should not be viewed as professional advice or as an endorsement of any product, service, opinion or method. Participants are asked to maintain confidentiality by not sharing the information, stories, experiences presented by other attendees.

To honor the safety, privacy, and sacredness of this space, all participants are expected to uphold confidentiality. This means that any stories, experiences, personal information, or identities shared by others during the program must not be shared outside of this space.

Please note that all information, recommendations, discussions, and opinions shared throughout this program are for general informational and educational purposes only. They should not be considered legal, medical, mental health, or financial advice, and they should not be used as a substitute for professional services or consultation. Nothing presented in this program is intended as an endorsement of any product, service, opinion, or method.

By participating, you agree to respect the privacy of others and maintain the confidentiality of what is shared.

Tirza Motivates, LLC requests that all participants, and/or viewers of session recordings, refrain from infringing on intellectual property and materials associated with Tirza Motivates, LLC and co-facilitators, including the sharing, forwarding, facilitation or replication of intellectual property or information presented to individuals and groups by Tirza Motivates, LLC to other unauthorized parties/entities.